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The Art of Romance: Dating Myself

February 1, 2021

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez 

This might sound crazy (or maybe even basic bitch-esque, whatever idgaf), but after getting through all of 2020 and a long-ass, draining January (although we had a few wins - shoutout to Georgia voters and Biden/Harris in the House!!) without a significant other to lean on as an additional support system/intimate connection, I am in this mindset of saying "fuck it! I'm going to build that intimate relationship with myself! I'm going to treat myself like a queen." Embracing the whole self-love club movement that's been sweeping the internet for the past few years has always been somewhat challenging for me. I know that's terrible to admit, but as a natural perfectionist, loving myself when I fail to show up for myself has never been an easy task for me. 

But as I reflect on 2020, it becomes more and more apparent that enjoying the here and now is sooo soo sooo important. And yet, in a year where loneliness, isolation, depression, and the mundane wfh lifestyle have swept the globe, enjoying each day has truly become a hell of a lot harder to to achieve. That's why I'm embracing February, the designated month of love, to dating myself. 

Yep, that's right. I'm officially jumping on the bandwagon. The challenge is pretty simple tbh, each day, I just have to do one small, romantic, indulgent or decadent thing for myself to make my day. Anything that will put a smile on my face and remind me that I'm that bitch. A minimum of 28 things for 28 days. And of course, we are going to do this the frugal way. 

I have a running list of ideas that I'll keep adding to. That way, I'll have a constant bank of inspiration to lean on during the days that I feel burned-out out or just unfulfilled with life. The beauty of this list is that I keep reminding myself that even the smallest things can bring me the highest form of joy. Things like buying myself a beautiful bouquet of flowers from Trader Joes, treating myself to a cute new necklace from Anthropologie, sleeping in satin pjs, and exploring a new, chic cafe just to pick up a delicious dessert are all extremely simple and affordable ways to show me how much I appreciate myself. It takes a lot to show up for ourselves every single day, and we deserve to celebrate that win. 



And I already got a head start this year; I bought myself some beautiful, affordable lingerie and valentine's themed pjs. Then, just to take things up a notch, I found the cutest valentine's day decorative pillows for only $4! Like I said, the smallest things put the largest smile on my face. Here are a few of the things I purchased last week and things I have my eyes on for the next month or so. 

So cheers to a year of making ourselves smile and reaching a whole new level of intimacy with ourselves. I'd love to hear what you're doing to treat yourself this month! Leave a comment or shoot me a DM. It will be fun to keep each other accountable 


My Treat Yo' Self List 



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The Art of Romance: Dating Myself

3 Flirty Valentine's Day Outfits + 7 Unexpected Galentine's And Date Night Ideas

February 9, 2018


Hey ladies! Today I wanted to share 3 easy Valentine's Day outfits with you. I wanted to give you guys a lot of options no matter how you're spending the day. So whether you're just heading to and from work, going to a fancy dinner with your boo, or hitting the streets with your girl gang, I hope these outfits inspire you to dress to kill... after all, Valentine's day is all about being extra. It's fun to be over-the-top everyone once in a while. Life is too short to not go all out. If you're still not convinced that Valentine's Day is lit, here are seven reasons why I love this time of year AND seven alternative ways to celebrate the day that isn't obnoxiously cliche. 
7 reasons why I love Valentine's Day

1. It's the perfect excuse to get dressed up and wear a lot of pink and red. We don't have to get dressed up for anyone else other than ourselves because it makes us feel confident. 
2. If you're single, you can’t be judged for treating yourself all day long. You can give yourself everything you want in this world. You don't have to wait for someone else to give it to you.
3. We can go out for a Galentine's brunch, dinner, night out, whatever! Valentine's day is all about celebrating the love and beauty that's surrounded by all of us. 
4. We can make cute gift baskets for our loved ones. 
5. This day is an excuse to do all the romantic ish we usually think is overboard. 
6. We have another excuse to buy fun holiday décor – aka the Target dollar section. It NEVER disappoints me. #TargetForLife
7. Love is the most important thing on the planet, so a day that celebrates loving and cherishing each and every person in your life is something to get excited about!

7 alternative ways to celebrate 
1. Galentine's brunch. This is a great way to celebrate with your friends over the weekend. A pitcher of mimosas is always a great idea. Plus, this is another reason to get dressed up and day drink (or be healthy and skip the alcohol). Regardless, you'll have a grand ole time. 

2. GNI - Have a girl's night in and cook together, watch your favorite movies or create burn books of lovers past if you still feel some type of way about them. I've never done this, but I have to admit that it sounds pretty therapeutic. We're allowed to be petty every once in a while... as long as you do so in private and don't try to hurt or publicly shame anyone. 

3. Themed dinner party. You can go to a restaurant with your SO any day of the week, so why not make today special and go to a themed dinner party or host one for you and your friends. If you need inspiration, play a game like in that one episode of The Office where Michael forces everyone to play "Murder in Savannah" with him. I've always wanted to do something like that. 

4. Have a paint and wine party. There are a ton of places that offer these types of classes or pick up some paint, wine, and canvases to enjoy at home. 

5. Take a salsa dance lesson with your SO. This is a fun and flirty way to connect with your boo in an unexpected way. Just think about the beautiful red dresses you could wear to these classes! And if you're single, this could be a fun way to meet and flirt with new people. Go get em, tiger!

6. Rent out a BYOB Karaoke room for you and your crew. 

7. And last, but not least, if you have money to blow and want to make this Valentine's Day one to remember, take a romantic helicopter ride around the city. If you live in or near a major city like NYC or ATL, you can find really affordable deals.  
Work Wear Outfit

Just because Valentine's Day is in the middle of the year, there's no reason for us to not be festive at our 9-5s. Hey, it might even make your time in the office a little more fun if you're not so into your job. What I really love about this outfit is that it's not too over-the-top for the office. If you have a meeting at work, or don't want to look like Barbie in front of your co-workers, this shirt adds a fun twist to your outfit without drawing too much attention to yourself. P.S. This post contains affiliate links! 

 I'm wearing a size large. In my opinion, button-down tops always look better tucked into something high-waisted. So grab a high-waisted pencil skirt or pair of jeans, some black or red pumps and some red lipstick. Now you're all set for the office. 


A Dress That Devastates 

I'm not ashamed to admit that I love red. I get this rush of confidence when I wear this color. It's bold, flirty and flattering on almost all skin tones. If you have a reason to get dolled up on Valentine's Day, I recommend wearing a red dress. The one I have on was on sale at Express for only $25, and it fits true to size. 

I definitely suggest wearing some shapewear under this dress since it's form-fitting. And you can pick up some decent shapewear for $10-$15 at Target or invest in a pair of Spanks. They will serve you for years to come. 

 One more style tip I have for wearing red dresses, if you have a large chest like me and can't go braless, wear a red bra underneath. If you're bra strap ends up showing, it blends right in with the dress and is way less noticeable. 
Pink + Red 

I love color blocking with pink and red. I find it hard to wear these two colors together year round, but February is the perfect opportunity to pair these colors together. This outfit is great for dinner with your crew, a movie date with your SO, a night out on the town and everything in between. 

No matter how you spend this holiday, I hope you're day is full of love and joy. I know this sounds corny, and I'm rolling my eyes as I type it, but you always have someone special in your life because you'll always have yourself. It's true. No one has the power to love yourself more than you do or knows what's best for you like you do. 

 Don't forget to celebrate yourself and everyone whom you care about this month. I know your day will be magical, and thanks for taking some time to read this long post. I appreciate you more than you know. Until Next time! 


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